Friday, June 06, 2008

Once an A-hole, Always an A-hole

Is there a 12 step program for personality disorders?

Is the first step to finding a solution simply admiting that you have a problem?

Is there a drug you can take to make you more socially acceptable?

What do you do when you realize you are your spouse's leading cause of stress?

How do you handle situations where you have offended people and you don't know it?

Can you change who you are?

Is it better to remove yourself from any personal interaction that is not absolutely necessary as a standard of daily life?

Certain people actually can make a profit from being an a-hole, mostly celebrities like Howard Stern and Neil Boortz. I actually like Boortz, but those are just two people in a world of millions.

So, any answers?

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Once an A-hole, Always an A-hole
Is there a 12 step program for personality disorders?
I don't know and I don't think that this is the question.

Is the first step to finding a solution simply admiting that you have a problem?
Yes, it is a start.

Is there a drug you can take to make you more socially acceptable?
No, that is not the answer. Medication is useful if you have a mental disorder.

What do you do when you realize you are your spouse's leading cause of stress?
Recognize it. Admit it. Own it. Change it. Do this by being more aware of what it causing the stress and trying to change those behaviors that cause the stress.

How do you handle situations where you have offended people and you don't know it?
Own it, apologized sincerely for it and work to avoid doing this again. Show that your apology is sincere by a change in your actions and attitude. If people see that you are changed, then they will know that your apology was sincere.

Can you change who you are?
Yes, you can discover the person that God meant for you to be. Change is possible with God's help and your active participation. Do this by making a conscious decision and being alert. It takes 21 days to make a new habit or break an old one.

Is it better to remove yourself from any personal interaction that is not absolutely necessary as a standard of daily life?
Hard to say. I think that you have done this and now is time to come back. You probably have a short time before your referral. Use the waiting time to discover who you really are.

My other piece of advice is to watch what you post. Some of your posts have created your conflicts. Also you would not want your employer reading some of these posts, let alone your social worker. Either password protect the site or make these posts private. It is good to journal, but some things should not be journaled for a large audience.